The Search in the Mirror

As much as I like to convince myself that I’m above the eye creams and before bed face regiment, I’m not. You see, despite my best efforts (and reading every “live your 40’s confidently” blog out there), I haven’t entered my 40’s gracefully. It’s been more of a dig-my-heels-in type of journey. I’m determined to defy the process. Which means Mary Kay night eye cream and exfoliation (which I’m still not sure I’m doing right). All these efforts with little or no change.

So I recently asked myself, why? As someone who knows the importance of inner beauty, why am I using the mirror as a measurement of my refinement. This fixation on what I see in the mirror only shows my outer self. The mirror can’t reflect the maturity in my relationship with Jesus. It doesn’t reveal that because of age, I’ve gained experiences that have taught me how to love others more deeply. The mirror doesn’t get a glimpse of the compassion in my heart that’s grown over time or the gratitude I feel every day, knowing many weren’t fortunate enough to even see their 40’s. The mirror can’t evaluate the joy that comes with knowing a Savior is on your side.

What I do know, is that when someone is beautiful inside – when they love Jesus, their joy exudes a beauty that no night cream can match. We’ve all known someone like that. Where you can’t necessarily put your finger on it… it’s not their new glasses, their hair color, or the lack of smile lines around their eyes. But they are one of the most beautiful people you’ve ever seen. I’ve seen it before, you have too. It’s the result of a beautiful soul that loves Jesus and lives a Christ-centered life.

Let’s be beautiful that way. Let’s not waste precious time focusing on what we see in the mirror, but rather spend time beautifying our souls.

So in fairness I can’t commit fully, to giving up night eye cream… but I can tell you, I promise to be intentional about backing off. I’ll lighten my nighttime process and in place, spend a bit more time with Jesus… renewing my soul. Are you in?

Relevant Verse: “So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.” 2 Corinthians 4:16

Lord, help me to remember as the days pass by, how I can become more beautiful for the Kingdom. Keep my eyes fixed on You and focused on the truth of what makes me beautiful. Amen.


Author: Carrie Kiekhaefer

I'm Carrie Kiekhaefer and I'm passionate about finding and reflecting JOY in this life. Unfortunately, I know a lot can get in the way of that JOY. Life is messy and complicated. I'm here as a messy child of God, a natural encourager, a blogger, a coach and a designer to help you navigate through the mess. With relevant scripture, a relationship with Jesus and some honest blogs we can find, let's discover and reflect His Joy - together.

2 thoughts on “The Search in the Mirror

  1. I think any woman can relate to this, despite age(cough**I’m29**cough). And it’s when I’m spending time in a community of believers, and in God’s word regularly that I can feel the weight of self-image insecurities being taken away and can feel His light radiating through me. Thank you for sharing this!!!! Love you C!

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